Staying open to simple pleasures offers opportunity for rejuvenation.
transform worn-out narratives
to simple pleasures
In my last blog post, grief was asking me to go deeper into emotions I’d prefer to avoid. Nature helped me to stay present to myself during the Darkness. And a couple of weeks later, I was ready to rediscover my joy.
As last weekend approached, I found myself expressing uncomfortable emotions to people I was holding resentments toward; I shared embarrassing thoughts with people I’m working on trusting; I reached out for help and support; I allowed myself to receive kindness, care, and pleasure.
And then I slept harder and longer than I have in many months.
When I awoke, I made a rejuvenation plan. On Saturday morning, I woke up, packed a small bag, and drove to Winona, MN for a short solo-adventure.
Here are a few simple pleasures that filled my heart with love, laughter, and joy!
I spent Saturday and Sunday moving in and out of connection with others, but always staying connected to myself, the present moment, and the environments in which I explored. During this short weekend, I rediscovered my joy and returned rejuvenated.
What do you do to rejuvenate?
If you're looking for ideas, here are a few from my trip to Winona:
Art and nature can provide a nurturing space for processing grief.
migrates on evolving winds
of oak-filled sorrows
In the last eight months, I’ve been connected, in varying degrees of closeness, to five individuals who have died. Naturally, these deaths have brought about grief, which is a feeling I believe most of us would prefer avoiding and I am no exception.
In the past, I would avoid through a wide variety of unhealthy and reckless behaviors: substance, ending relationships, isolating, avoiding responsibilities. As I’ve become more dedicated to allowing feelings to flow through me rather than weigh me down, art and nature have provided a nurturing space for processing uncomfortable emotions.
And having a nurturing space has provided some guidance around how to best nurture that discomfort. Recently, I took my camera to Rice Lake State Park after noticing feelings of discomfort. During my hike, I felt it all: grief, anger, fear, worry, frustration, hopelessness, freedom, peace, and love.
Upon my return, I was confronted with familiar habit of mine - isolating and pushing people away - and I became aware of how I wanted to change my story of grief to allow for deeper connections. The following questions helped me begin to write a new narrative and navigate through uncharted territory.
Embracing art and nature during grief allowed me to stay connected, speak my truth, be both wildly immature and infinitely wise without self-sabotaging, chose healthier coping mechanisms, forgive, and maintain relationships through this most recent time of grief.
How has nature nurtured you through grief?